Listening to the relaxing
sounds of nature
walking on a long,
Uncertain where it leads to,
trying to find myself.
the journey finally
Used to hate
the wrong turns.
but now I know there is a reason
Things aren’t always perfect,
at some points in life
we might regret
the choices we made,
become disappointed in ourselves
when something doesn’t go our way,
and feel lost
this is what the journey of life
is all about.
It’s ok to lose focus sometimes,
but having a sense of direction,
of meaning, and purpose
is most important,
and knowing what you want,
doing things for yourself,
self love is something we all
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The problem with us human beings is that as we grow older we tend to think that we can handle anything that may come our way. Because we’ve done it before so why not again? We’ve seen it all, done it all, lost sleep over it, tackled it first thing in the morning, every morning, for God knows how long, till we were able to conquer it all. These “victories” lead us into having an unrealistic and overly high opinion of ourselves. As a result we are not prepared for things that can actually throw us off balance.
And when something does throw us off balance, challenging us to stay calm and maintain our inner peace, we lose it. Up goes in smoke all the effort we put into being at peace with our lives. We end up doing something so stupid, so bad, so ugly that it leaves a permanent mark on our memories. Don’t even get me started on regret.
Mistakes, screw-ups, failure are a part of life.
Never forget this. Get over it.
One of the important lessons I’ve learned in life is to not be hard on myself. Often times we get so tired and disappointed of not being able to measure up to our own expectations that we become our own worst critics. Belittling our capabilities, criticizing our choices and decisions, beating ourselves up over little things is not going to help. Rather, what’s essential is to get to the root of the problem. Because once we manage to figure out what’s wrong, we will be able to effectively tackle the problem because that’s what heroes do right? 😎
But what has problem solving got to do with inner peace?
The short answer is: everything.
Although at the surface level the two may appear to be opposing ideas, since problem solving involves confronting the problem head on and therefore may be perceived as something that is stressful and disruptive to peace; it is important to realize that it is only through problem solving that one can attain inner peace. I mean, come on, there’s a problem, we can’t just sit there and expect it to go away on its own, can we? Let’s be realistic, it doesn’t work like that.
We don’t really have to look through library shelves for books after books that give us sophisticated ideas to deal with problems in sophisticated ways though. Because Islam simplifies it for us.
Allah عزّ و جل Says in the Noble Quran,
“The believers are only those who, when Allah is mentioned, their hearts become fearful, and when His verses are recited to them, it increases them in faith; and upon their Lord they rely”
(Surah Al-Anfal 8:2)
Key phrase: “upon their Lord they rely”
What the West calls “optimism” is from an Islamic perspective complete and unwavering trust in Allah.
Putting one’s complete trust in Allah involves two things: 1) relying on Allah and believing that whatever He wills, occurs and that whatever He does not Will does not occur; and 2) taking appropriate measures.
The Prophet ﷺ is reported to have said in a hadith:
“…Strive to seek that which will benefit you and do not feel helpless. If something overwhelms you, then say: Qaddarallah, wa ma sha’a fa’al (It is the decree of Allah and what He wills He does). And beware of (saying) ‘If only,’ for ‘If only opens the door to Satan.”
(Sunan Ibn Majah Vol. 5, Book 37, Hadith 4168)
Taking appropriate measures and doing things that will help us reach our goals or solve our problems is part of putting our trust in Allah. Also seeking Divine Guidance by means of Salatul Istikhara, a highly recommended Sunnah, will help make things easier by the Will of Allah.
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P.S This post was written in haste so please forgive any error I may have made. I was supposed to complete this earlier today but I put it off till the end as always. Hopefully next time I’ll prepare well before time which reminds me that I’ve already decided on my next topic. 😊 Alhumdulillah. But I’m taking suggestions anyway. I’d love to know your opinions on what I should write on insha’Allah!
Remember me in your duas ❤